The psychologist advises – let’s be proud of our children!

On the Internet I came across premises saying that during the first 15 years of life, in an average family, a child hears 150,000 times messages that block them, e.g. Stop. You can’t. Don’t do it. Don’t make noise. Don’t interrupt.

It made me wonder how many times a child hears: You do it very well. You’re wonderful. Cool. I am proud of you. I’m glad you did it. Tell me what you think.

Unfortunately, we often have negative messages, fueled by emotions, because for example we are nervous that a child is doing something that from our perspective “should not”. We impose on ourselves the PRESSION of time or perfection of the task, we live in the conviction that someone else will judge our child negatively by his current behavior.

We forget about one. This praise is always more effective in modelling behavior.

Positive reinforcement means providing the child with pleasant sensations and rewards in response to his or her behavior. It is a pleasant event that is its consequence, e.g. time spent with adults. It’s NOT just material things! For a child, a kind word, gesture, privilege, and playing games is often more valuable.

Positive reinforcement is better because:
• builds self-esteem in the child,
• builds faith in their own strength and capabilities,
• builds their sense of security,
• adds motivation,
• teaches how to pursue a goal,
• encourages new challenges,
• strengthens relationships with adults.

Let’s appreciate it!

Mrs. Ola

• Primary School